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#AskPhette: 101 – Self Love & Acceptance | #PhetteIsm


#AskPhette: 101

How does self love & self acceptance dictate how someone will treat you? How do you respond to someone who wants to treat you well if you don’t have a clear idea about who you are?

Self love & self acceptance are the blueprints, the guides to YOU. If something in the blueprint is off, erroneous, it’ll lead people in the wrong direction. When you don’t love and accept yourself, people will treat you as they see fit. It is your responsibility to show people how to treat you by providing them with the correct blueprint. Remember, people treat us by how we allow them to.

If you don’t have a clear idea about who you are, you cannot effectively receive someone who wants to treat you well. You’ll probably be able to discern that this person wants to do good by you, but you will subconsciously, or maybe even knowingly, sabotage it (the budding relationship) because of your past or other issues, that weren’t addressed. When you know who you are, know your worth, and what you deserve, you’ll welcome the well treatment.


*Disclaimer: This is for entertainment purposes only. I am by no means a professional. I’m simply sharing my opinions/experiences and what has or hasn’t worked for me. I am a Guru of my life and my life only.

Picking A Fit: The “Single by Choice” Edition | Phette Hollins

Single & loving it!!!

I’m prepping myself for the next right one!!! Check out the vid for more!!!!

Being FREE: Living your life…FREE’ly | #Authenticity #PhetteHollins #GettingToFree

Wanna live your life freely? Here’s how:
1. Identify what FREE looks like to you.
2. Know yourself.
3. Make & take time to get to FREE!
4. STEW in you.

Watch the video for more:

My #1 Relationship Killer –A response to Trent Shelton’s video | @phettehollins

This video is in response to Trent Shelton’s video – Protect your relationship.

His message really spoke to me and had me thinking of the things I did wrong in the past.

Ck it out and let me know your thoughts.

My #1 Relationship Killer

Embracing being single | @phettehollins

Happy Sunday y’all!!!!

This week’s vid is about me being single and how I’m embracing it.

I’m single…and ready to mingle…SIKE!!! But I am single tho!

My Upcoming Web Series | @phetteogburn #WebShow #YouTube

Great day y’all!!!!

You were given another day. What ‘chu gone do wit it????

I’m in an awesome mood this morning. Hopefully you are too!

I’m gonna talk briefly about my upcoming web show. I’m still a bit apprehensive about revealing the title because I’m not really sold on it. So, it’s a working title at this point.

I suck really, really bad at titling. That is a word, right? If not, it should be. My 2 books were named by someone else. And, now that I’m thinking about it, I just may reach out to them again.


The series is about a 30-year-old woman name Andreea who realizes her life has been nothing but a string of dead-end relationships, and she really wants to believe there’s more to life.

She has 2 besties: Stacia & Wen-Dell, who do a good job keeping her balanced by feeding into her crazy and also knocking her down to reality when need be. We all need friend like that, don’t we?

All but the main character & one minor character are casted. While this is a non-paid gig, you will gain exposure and have oodles (LOTS OF; A WHOLE LOT; TONS) of fun being on set. Oodles!!!

If you or someone you know can act and fit the character bios (below), please have him/her email me their resume’, head shot, and preferably a link to their acting reel at:

AA, 30, free-spirit, sarcastic, eclectic, commitment-phobe

AA, dark-skinned, late 20s early 30s, handsome, charismatic

Enjoy the rest of your day!!!

The Author Formerly Known As…Phette Ogburn

Happy Sunday y’all.

I’m back again with a super short post & vid.

Some of you may have noticed that my website is and my Facebook is now Phette HOLLINS. Why is that?

My married name was OGBURN. When I got divorced almost 2 years ago, I went back to my maiden name. I am in the process of changing my website but am torn as to whether or not I should change my name as an author. My books are published under OGBURN, and I think it would cause more headache for me to start writing under my maiden name. I’m thinking about keeping OGBURN as it relates to my books and just use it as my pen name. What do y’all think? Does it even matter? Do y’all care one way or the other?


To honor my cousin Jessica’s memory, her friends, my family & I rock cheetah print (and purple) because she loved it and wore it on a regular. Soooo…..

If you have pics of you rocking cheetah, send them to me at: OR follow me on Twitter and Facebook and make sure to add the hashtag #Cheetah4UJai, & I will shout you out on one or all of my social media channels.

Check out the vid for more details. And don’t forget to Like…share…subscribe…and comment. That’s not a whole lot to ask, is it?