Ain’t nuthn but a G(ay) thang!!! | #lovewins #SCOTUS @phettehollins

Soooooo….

It’s 2 days after the #SCOTUS announced the legalization of same-sex marriage, and some folks are all in a tizzy. Like, if you’re opposed, homophobic, religious, or just straight-up hate/dislike it…guess what? DON’T MARRY SOMEONE OF THE SAME SEX!!!! Easiest solution EVER!!!!

LOVE IS LOVE

As open-minded & understanding as I am, I absolutely cannot comprehend why who someone LOVES gets naysayers so vexed. How is that hurting YOU? How does that affect YOU?

Come Judgment Day, you (NAYSAYERS) are not gonna be persecuted by homosexual association. I’m almost, like, 500% sure of that. Now, watch out if you’ve ever slept with someone else’s spouse, stolen…ya know. Stuff like that.

But anyhoo…I digress…kind of.

I’ve barely scratched the surface about being a lesbian and how I went from being married to a man for almost 6 years to “coming out” and having a girlfriend.

I will talk specifics at a later time, but the gist is, I didn’t “come out.” I refer to it as “coming out again” because I was in relationships with women prior to my ex-husband and identified as bisexual for many years because I didn’t know who I was.

I know now that I am a lesbian and identify as such, and have for a while.

I’ve admired women for most of my life and never really wanted to be married to one. Yeah, I’ve liked some and loved a couple. But…marriage? Naw!!!!

This all changed a few months ago. Right after I declared I was single, someone swooped in and changed that. Showing me something different than what I’d been seeing, than what I’d been experiencing.

She didn’t speak about it, she was about it. She didn’t just talk, she backed it up. She came to me with a clean slate and an open heart. She came…READY!!!

Sooooo…on Friday, June 26th when the Supreme Court of the United States legalized same-sex marriage…

I….WAS….READY!!!

#LoveWINS

Love Languages | @phettehollins #LoveLanguage #Communication

Great day y’all!!!!

Do y’all know about the 5 love languages? If you’re obsessed with assessments like I am, I’m sure you’ve run across this one.

Knowing your love language and that of your partner’s is paramount. Take the quiz for ya self: Love Language Quiz.

In addition to that, knowing who you are as a person also helps when it comes to communicating effectively. My personality type is: INFP = Introverted, iNtuitive, Feeling, Perceiving. Read more about me and this particular personality type HERE and HERE, TOO!!!

And if you haven’t done so, take the test. I’m telling you, it has changed my life by helping me to better understand who I am as a person and what it is I’m meant to do with my life.

Embracing being single | @phettehollins

Happy Sunday y’all!!!!

This week’s vid is about me being single and how I’m embracing it.

I’m single…and ready to mingle…SIKE!!! But I am single tho!

I was invited to a birthday party…this is #EPIC | #AddressNotSuppress #phettehollins @phettehollins

Hi y’all!

Guess what? I was invited to a birthday party. :)

I talked a little bit before about my ex-husband’s side of the family and how after the divorce, they divorced me as well.

My ex-husband and I struggled for well over a year to get on the same page, and I’m happy to say that we finally are. We remained cordial, for the most part, throughout this whole ordeal and have actually become friends, which I wanted 2 years ago, but it was toooooo soon. I talk about it in THIS video and THIS ONE. Check ’em out if you haven’t done so. Please. :-)

Even though we’ve been on speaking terms since the divorce and have even ended up at some of the same gatherings, functions…shoot, I’ve even invited him to mine, he’s never invited me to any of his “family” gatherings. Until yesterday.

Why this is beyond EPIC

This is epic because, this says we are for real for real friends and that he has forgiven me for not only ending the marriage but for the way I ended it. **I talk about that in the other vids** It’s not what you do, it’s how you do it. I totally handled that situation improperly, and I’ve told him so as well.

I was nervous at first but quickly settled in. Our daughter was shocked and happy to see me. She often asks why I don’t come around anymore. I explain to her why. So it felt good to see that big smile on her face.

I exchanged hugs with a few folks and even had a long conversation with a childhood friend who told me I’ll always be her “girl”, but she doesn’t approve of my lifestyle because she doesn’t believe in homosexuality. She’s entitled. Whatever…

Overall, I had a good time. It wasn’t the party that made it great, it was the invitation.

Enjoy the rest of your day, and don’t forget, in order to heal, you gotta keep it real.

My Upcoming Web Series | Table-read and Meet & Greet | @phetteogburn #WebSeries #WebShow @YouTube

Hiiiii!!!!

Did you have a good weekend? Was it fun? Was it productive?

Yesterday was the table-read slash meet & greet for my upcoming web series. And, as expected, 2 of the MAIN characters weren’t able to make it. It almost messed up my mood, but I kept it moving.

I arrived at the library 30 minutes early, thinking, hey, I’m doing good…Only to find out they double-booked and had to change the room they’d initially reserved to a smaller one. Still, I didn’t trip because it’s better than not having a room at all, right? BUT…I was about to trip on the lady’s rudeness. In fact, a few of us were.

So…1 o’clock hits and still no room. 1:03…1:05…1:07…nothing. I’m trying to get the rude lady’s attention, but she was occupied with other customers. One time, she looked me square in the face and I politely said,”It’s past 1 o’clock.” She turned her head as if I said nothing.

At 1:10, one of my cronies, I meant, cast members walked over to the desk, customers and all, and asked, “Can you just tell us which room we’re in?” The older man, who was right there with the rude lady when the nice lady admitted she’d double booked, acted oblivious and said “What’s the name again? All the rooms are taken.”

I gave him my company’s name, and the rude lady jumped in and said, “It’s Room 2, straight to the back and on the left.” I gave her my “Please-don’t-make-me-act-up-in-Dearborn Heights-because-I-will” look. Like, why didn’t she say that before when we were having our staring contest??? But anyhoo…

We walked to the room and….

IT WAS LOCKED!!!!

Before I could say ANBESOL (For those of you who have no idea what I’m talking about, click the link to watch the vid :-) ), one of my cronies, I meant, crew, was at the front desk.

The rude lady comes floating back there, having conversation with us as she’s opening the door, trying to lighten the mood. She even says a joke that none of us laughs at. We were all dead-pan like…

Rude lady, don’t try to be nice now. Get on out so we can get started.

NOW TO THE GOOD PART!!!

The read was a success! The actors got into character, and even stepped up and read lines for those who didn’t show up. It was a great feeling.

Table Read/Meet & Greet

Table Read/Meet & Greet

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The POINT of it all

The absolute moral to this story is, although the day started off rough, with the room and the characters not showing up, I had to keep…pushing…forward.

I’m a firm believer in that what is for me is FOR ME…and will be, regardless. Through tornados, hurricanes, monsoons…whateva.

WHAT’S MINE IS MINE

I’m also a firm believer in when you’re passionate about something, you will make it happen at all costs. This was evident when one of the cast members drove from OHIO (2-3 hours away) to attend the read. Another caught the bus. That’s passion. That’s commitment.

I’m gonna do what it takes to get this project off the ground because I BELIEVE IN IT!!!! PERIOD. That’s the only option.

I hope the rest of your day turns out just as you want it to.

Keep pushing…Keep it moving…AND

DON’T STOP ‘TIL YOU GET THERE!!! ~ Phette

My Upcoming Web Series | @phetteogburn #WebShow #YouTube

Great day y’all!!!!

You were given another day. What ‘chu gone do wit it????

I’m in an awesome mood this morning. Hopefully you are too!

I’m gonna talk briefly about my upcoming web show. I’m still a bit apprehensive about revealing the title because I’m not really sold on it. So, it’s a working title at this point.

I suck really, really bad at titling. That is a word, right? If not, it should be. My 2 books were named by someone else. And, now that I’m thinking about it, I just may reach out to them again.

Anyhoo…

The series is about a 30-year-old woman name Andreea who realizes her life has been nothing but a string of dead-end relationships, and she really wants to believe there’s more to life.

She has 2 besties: Stacia & Wen-Dell, who do a good job keeping her balanced by feeding into her crazy and also knocking her down to reality when need be. We all need friend like that, don’t we?

All but the main character & one minor character are casted. While this is a non-paid gig, you will gain exposure and have oodles (LOTS OF; A WHOLE LOT; TONS) of fun being on set. Oodles!!!

If you or someone you know can act and fit the character bios (below), please have him/her email me their resume’, head shot, and preferably a link to their acting reel at: CinemaBugFilms@gmail.com.

ANDREEA
AA, 30, free-spirit, sarcastic, eclectic, commitment-phobe

CHRIS
AA, dark-skinned, late 20s early 30s, handsome, charismatic

Enjoy the rest of your day!!!

Celibacy — 3 Reasons why I’ve chosen to do so | @phetteogburn #AddressNotSuppress

Happy Sunday. Happy day. Any day on the sunny side of the dirt is worth rejoicing.

I had a very rough weekend, so I’m a bit exhausted. However, I refused to let that be an excuse to not make a Blog/Vlog post.

Today’s topic:

CELIBACY
Sexual abstinence from some or all aspects of sexual activity for some limited period of time, usually for non-religious reasons and for personal growth & empowerment.

In different periods of my life, I often entertained the idea of becoming celibate. This would come about whenever I would reach an impasse in a relationship and question its foundation.

What I found out was that ALL of my relationships were based on SEX!!!

I talk about this in my video Aura & Energy, and, back in the day, I didn’t make the connection that that’s why I wasn’t getting “more” from the relationship because the base/foundation was rocky from jump.

Here are the top 3 reasons why I’m choosing celibacy

3. Personal Growth
2. No more bartering SEX for attention
1. I want to be LOVED for who I am, not for what I can give sexually

Click on the video for more.

Thanks for watching y’all. Enjoy the rest of your day!!!